Hello ladies, how are you? Sometimes I'm wondering why people should get married. When I asked my cousin, she gave me a really shocking answer that I never thought about it before. She was married in her 32/33s something I don't really remember. It's kinda late for asian people. lol
I've been single for 3 years now, not really a long time huh? And sometimes mom asked me why I haven't been in a relationship again, actually I'm not really sure about it, haha. I'm afraid of a relationship I think.
In my country, girls normally get married when they're 22-27 years old, well mostly but not all though. Some of them marry in their early 30s though. And usually when you're in a long relationship for few years, you wanna plan for marriage with your partner. Or get a sudden pressure from both parents.
Ok back to my cousin, her answer to my question was, "Because I don't want to die alone, If I have children, they'll take care of me when I'm old". Ok that was quite shocking for me cos I never thought like that..
I always think if someday I have to get married then the reason is because of that man, because I love him, because I want to be with him for the rest of my life and he's the one who steal my heart. Maybe I'm too naive? lol
And children is like a fatal commitment for me, If I want to have one then the reason is because I want to raise them to become a great person who can contribute something to this world. Not because they can take care of me when I'm old.. I don't know, maybe I don't have any concern about my old ages.
And weeks ago I had a talk with my mom and I spontaneously asked her:
Me: "Mom if I don't get married in the future, can I adopt a child?"
Mom: "Are you mad?
Me: "c'mon mom you know I'm serious"
Mom: "Why you don't find a boyfriend soon?"
Mom: "You're an alien!"
Me: "lol, What if I really do that in the future?"
Mom: "Listen, people will talk about you. Think about your reputation, a woman without a husband but with a child is not good.."
Me: "Hmm, I know but I don't care, really"
Mom: "No you don't know and you're crazy, I don't wanna talk with crazy person"
What you can expect from an asian mom? I can't even imagine my dad's reaction because maybe he will flip a table on our living room. They might think I'm insane lol.
I don't know about other's people perspective though, is it not good to not get married and have an adopted child? What's your reaction if you know one of your friend who bring her child everywhere but never see the father? lol
I think there're many poor orphaned kids out there, why I'm not getting one and make them happy? Instead of making one, lol. It's not like I don't want to have my own child but it's just a random thought in my brain.